Fear, panic, and discomfort are common emotions experienced by people preparing for retirement. These emotions often occur because the pre-retiree is entering a new world – one with different circumstances, behaviours, and activities. It is a world filled with change, and with change comes opportunity!
So, who makes the transition easier, men or women? Though both sexes have achieved various successes in their work, men are often conditioned to think of themselves as synonymous with their jobs. Their identity is to being ‘supervisor’, ‘manager’ ‘business owner’ or ‘chief mechanic’.
The typical male will approach retirement as an opportunity to play more golf or tackling the ‘honey-do list’. However, playing golf five times a week begins to feel like a chore. Projects around the house lose their appeal and there is a ‘let-down’ kind of feeling that causes retirees to ask the question “Is this all there is?” Frustration and disappointment can mount as some retirees get caught in this vortex and are unable to get out.
Whereby a woman is usually more emotionally differentiated given responsibilities between domestic and professional responsibilities. Further, women generally have a wider range of friends, including intimate friends with whom they share their personal journey. Women also have a greater sense of instinctual behavior and have undertaken a wider range of personal exploration.
The inspiration for my books, articles, presentations, and coaching, came from observing people who retired from successful careers to lead inactive lives focused on television programs or computer games. Many had no hobbies or outside interests. Few had friends other than ‘work buddies’ and most were reluctant to join any organizations or social clubs. For some, they had relatively short lives after retiring and for others, they appeared unhappy and unfulfilled. Though tragic, it is not uncommon, and I believe such unhappy endings can be prevented.
If you are around or between the ages of 45 to 65, it’s time to explore your future as a retired person. Consider reading my books and blogs (www.whencaniretire.ca), attending a presentation and/or engaging in individual or couple coaching. Whatever action you take, be sure to share your thoughts and plans with your spouse or partner as you progress towards developing your personal retirement vision and plan. Take a proactive interest in your retirement and develop a plan that enriches your life.
